Day 5 of 30-day writing challenge: a quote I try to live by.
“You do not have to be good.”
This is the first line from Mary Oliver’s Wild Geese poem. The whole poem is so
freaking fabulous in the unpretentious way it conveys so much meaning in the
simplest way possible.
You do not have
to be good.
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You do not have
to walk on your knees
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for a hundred
miles through the desert repenting.
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You only have
to let the soft animal of your body
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love what it
loves.
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Tell me about
despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.
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Meanwhile the
world goes on.
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Meanwhile the
sun and the clear pebbles of the rain
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are moving
across the landscapes,
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over the
prairies and the deep trees,
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the mountains
and the rivers.
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Meanwhile the
wild geese, high in the clean blue air,
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are heading
home again.
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Whoever you
are, no matter how lonely,
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the world
offers itself to your imagination,
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calls to you
like the wild geese, harsh and exciting -
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over and over
announcing your place
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in the family
of things.
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I have a copy of this poem above my sink so I can read it
while I fill the coffee pot with water in the morning and I have it written on
a lampshade in my living room, so I can glimpse words of it when I pass by.
I like poetry because I can carry it with me. I can memorize
a few lines and pull them out when I need them. If I’m bummed because I burned
supper, I tell myself: You do not have to be good. I yell at my kids for no
reason: You do not have to be good. I find myself being stingy and selfish: You
do not have to be good. Lazy and useless: You do not have to be good. Those
words do so much for me. They take the pressure off perfection and guilt. Guilt
is such a useless emotion and perfection is such a boring goal. You do not have
to be good. You don’t even want to, do you? Why are you trying so hard to be
good?
So, what do you have to do? Oliver answers that for us in
the fourth and fifth lines: “You only have to let the soft animal of your
body/love what it loves.” Wow! No matter how hard I try I can’t ever, ever be
good. Not for more than a couple of minutes, anyway. Then I’m right back to my
usual bad self. I can let the soft animal of my body love what it loves, though.
The soft animal of my body can love what it loves all day long.
There’s so much more meat in the poem, I love the pace that
the poem reveals itself, unfurling like a line of wild geese flying across the
sky. I love the way the words feel in my mouth. I can taste this poem.
Let’s all stop trying so freaking hard to be good, and let’s love what we love instead. Funny
as it is, but so much good can come from that love.